Many people view subjects regarding sexual preferences as taboo. It is not something which is openly discussed over the dinner table or at parties, unless you know which parties to go to. Coupled often discuss the idea of a threesome but it never materializes, owing to factors such as who ask, how to ask and whether people will be 
appalled or intrigued. As a result it leaves the subject of ‘Household for three’ in a sort of dark spot. Many of the taboo or rarely discussed sexual subjects, such as bondage, discipline and Sado-masochism tend to be ‘underground’ subjects who are reserved for those who know someone, who know someone, who knows someone else who knows where to go, but in general they are not widely advertised.
Some couples may talk about the idea of inviting a third person into their bedroom but it is not easy to find the third wheel, willing to participate. Asking people you know bring all sorts of issues. Will they be sickened by the idea and never speak to you both again? Will it cause problems with your cozy twosome? Will it cause difficulties and awkwardness afterward? Maybe it is better to select a stranger who is willing.
How do you find a stranger who is willing? There are certain criteria that you should consider when you decide on a threesome. The emotional state of your potential third wheel should be considered very seriously. You will want a person of emotional strength and detachment; otherwise their fragility may be a problem. If, for instance, they are emotional fragile they may read far too much into the situation and become too emotional attached to either you or your partner. If your threesome is to be a one-time affair, you will most certainly want someone willing to do the deed and walk away happy at that. You should also think about the type of sex this third wheel is willing to participate. If you are into BDSM (Bondage Discipline Submission/ Sadism Masochism) you will want to find a suitable person to compliment you and your partner’s preferences. For example, if you want to use a paddle on your third wheel, your third wheel has to agree to want to be paddled. You can’t just start walloping their butt right in the middle of it without first asking if they like it.
How to Find that Extra Wheel
Where does one start looking for this third wheel? The internet seems to be the best place for finding potential recruits. Social networking sites and online personals offer a great way to meet sexually adventurous folks who will be willing to participate in threesomes. Of course, with the internet involved, come certain cautions and warnings. Let’s suppose you look locally in the personals listings and you find someone willing to participate. First thing would be to write them and tell them what you are looking for. Ask for a photo if there is not one posted on their profile and send them of you both, in return. This is more so that you can know that the person is who they say they are if you decide to meet up to discuss terms. Always meet initially on neutral ground and do not give out your private phone number or address until you are perfectly comfortable doing so.
If you and your partner have discussed the idea of a threesome and it is in equal choice for both of you, then you should both attend the first meeting. After all, it is important that you, your partner and your guest all like each other. Bodily hygiene is a vitally important factor, as well as finding out if there are any communicable diseases. Not such a pleasant thin to ask your third wheel, but it is necessary for their health as wheel as yours that you should all be the honest about your habits. It might not seem appropriate to ask for medical certificates but it can be discussed. Condoms and safe sex should always be practiced.
Different Stroke for different folks
Choosing the right person to join you is important for all round enjoyment of the whole experience. Decide as a couple which type of person you want, so that you both know what you are getting into. Have a list of questions ready to ask your guest, so that you know them a little better by the end of the first meeting. Asking the right questions will help you determine if they are what you are looking for and whether you and your partner are what your guest is looking for. Many people have never tried a threesome before and it is important to note that your guest may also be experiencing their first foray into the world. Newbies and curious people may want to find out what the experience is like and they can be just as worried and scared as you. Make your guest feel comfortable and never put them under pressure to participate